Because of my personal experiences I talk a lot about the need for unconditional love. Personally, I believe this is a huge part of living a happy life. However, unconditional love can really put you through the ringer. It's no easy road to tread and there is a measure of pain that you have to accept with unconditional love. This is because it is in people's nature to fail us, to be imperfect, and to mess up.
Unconditional love is painful when people mess up. See, I'm sitting in that right now. It is difficult to love someone who is bound up in hate. It is what they spew and it's really hurtful. It is a gushing wound in your heart. You'll want to use bitterness to close it- it's faster- but bitterness doesn't close wounds. It fills them with infection- so they fester. It's not a pretty picture.
I've had to look at happiness differently. There are two sides. Part- is the importance of finding a little bit of it everyday. Looking at the little things to find the positive. The other, is the understanding that happiness isn't all right in the moment. That you have to look at the big picture too. So while, it's easier right now- to be bitter- unconditional love is big picture. You are better for it in your life- though you go through some present pain.
I know this is hard. I live this part. It can hurt so much to be object of someone's hate. There's a book I've read, it's about offense, it's a Christian book but regardless of faith it has great depth. See, in Christianity- you aren't supposed to take up offenses even when we have the right too, as in when someone legitimately wrongs you. I sit in that right now. I have a right to be angry, bitter, offended. What love teaches me- is that regardless- of my "right" because someone has "wronged" me, I can only respond in love.
I don't believe this means you invite further opportunity for someone to hurt you. Sometimes, people are so full of hate you have to just remove them from your life. The forgiveness is something you do in your heart. If they approach you and you can extend that's beautiful but the important part lies within you.
I know, I talk about this a lot. It's because life continually gives opportunity for me to re-learn this. To practice unconditional love- it's one of the hardest things I've done. I won't go into the details but understand that this comes from a legitimate place and the wound is not something easily over-come. I'm blessed that I have my husband right along with me, but certain wounds must be dealt with alone.
My hope, is that as I gain these experiences now- the more I grow the better I will be for it. That my children will learn from these experiences and grow.
Find the happy in the little things
and when something big hurts your heart-
know that if you forgive- you're giving yourself a happier future.
Unconditional love is painful when people mess up. See, I'm sitting in that right now. It is difficult to love someone who is bound up in hate. It is what they spew and it's really hurtful. It is a gushing wound in your heart. You'll want to use bitterness to close it- it's faster- but bitterness doesn't close wounds. It fills them with infection- so they fester. It's not a pretty picture.
I've had to look at happiness differently. There are two sides. Part- is the importance of finding a little bit of it everyday. Looking at the little things to find the positive. The other, is the understanding that happiness isn't all right in the moment. That you have to look at the big picture too. So while, it's easier right now- to be bitter- unconditional love is big picture. You are better for it in your life- though you go through some present pain.
I know this is hard. I live this part. It can hurt so much to be object of someone's hate. There's a book I've read, it's about offense, it's a Christian book but regardless of faith it has great depth. See, in Christianity- you aren't supposed to take up offenses even when we have the right too, as in when someone legitimately wrongs you. I sit in that right now. I have a right to be angry, bitter, offended. What love teaches me- is that regardless- of my "right" because someone has "wronged" me, I can only respond in love.
I don't believe this means you invite further opportunity for someone to hurt you. Sometimes, people are so full of hate you have to just remove them from your life. The forgiveness is something you do in your heart. If they approach you and you can extend that's beautiful but the important part lies within you.
I know, I talk about this a lot. It's because life continually gives opportunity for me to re-learn this. To practice unconditional love- it's one of the hardest things I've done. I won't go into the details but understand that this comes from a legitimate place and the wound is not something easily over-come. I'm blessed that I have my husband right along with me, but certain wounds must be dealt with alone.
My hope, is that as I gain these experiences now- the more I grow the better I will be for it. That my children will learn from these experiences and grow.
Find the happy in the little things
and when something big hurts your heart-
know that if you forgive- you're giving yourself a happier future.