Some days just suck. Some days it will be one thing after another and you can’t win. Worse, sometimes those days are strung together. You’re hurt, you’re mad, you’re sad and things aren’t going well.
I find it hard to dust myself off after days like this. I have a hard time not feeling really defeated when this happens. I over think all those negative things and those bad days start getting really into my thoughts. I dwell on the badness of those things.
I’d like to think that this is something that a lot of people struggle with (gosh I hope it’s not just me). I don’t want to be bogged in that though. I don’t want to stay in that crud. How does one detach from that, without running from the problem?
I don’t know it all. Man I wish I did, I think life would be easier but I don’t. What I’m finding is helping me are these:
1) Some things I can’t fix. Some issues in life are like virus’s they have to run their course. However, life will always change and fold and renew, so nothing is going to be awful forever. The things I can’t fix I have to let go of. Let go of the anger, the resentment, the need for control. This is something I really struggle with but when I do reach that place; it’s a lot more peaceful.
2) Some things I can fix. Certain life problems are within our power to change. The timing of that is crucial. You can only do what you can only do. So do what you can and let the rest go. (Clearly I have a control issue- since letting things go seems to come up a lot).
3) Lastly- “This too shall pass”. As I said earlier. All things change. Things may not turn out how you want them too but a positive can be found even in that. Once again with my need for control- I struggle when things don’t “work out in the end”. Even more when that “in the end” isn’t in my timing. What I’m finding though is that for my peace of mind- I decide where I “end” things in my head. “I’m letting this go for today, it’s over and I am going to live with it and move on”. This helps me combat my need to dwell on things.
Maybe for everyone else this stuff is innate- but it isn’t for me. See, when I get in these funks it blocks my happiness. I’m finding more and more that I want to do all I can to get out of “bad day funks”. This is what I do and I thought I would share it, mostly because writing it all out helps me keep it in my focus. Lately, I’ve been having a few “suckie days”.
I love the quote: “the happiness of your mind is determined by the quality of your thoughts”. I want the quality of my thoughts not to be dictated by the “suckie stuff”.
How do you get over a bad day or series of them?
I find it hard to dust myself off after days like this. I have a hard time not feeling really defeated when this happens. I over think all those negative things and those bad days start getting really into my thoughts. I dwell on the badness of those things.
I’d like to think that this is something that a lot of people struggle with (gosh I hope it’s not just me). I don’t want to be bogged in that though. I don’t want to stay in that crud. How does one detach from that, without running from the problem?
I don’t know it all. Man I wish I did, I think life would be easier but I don’t. What I’m finding is helping me are these:
1) Some things I can’t fix. Some issues in life are like virus’s they have to run their course. However, life will always change and fold and renew, so nothing is going to be awful forever. The things I can’t fix I have to let go of. Let go of the anger, the resentment, the need for control. This is something I really struggle with but when I do reach that place; it’s a lot more peaceful.
2) Some things I can fix. Certain life problems are within our power to change. The timing of that is crucial. You can only do what you can only do. So do what you can and let the rest go. (Clearly I have a control issue- since letting things go seems to come up a lot).
3) Lastly- “This too shall pass”. As I said earlier. All things change. Things may not turn out how you want them too but a positive can be found even in that. Once again with my need for control- I struggle when things don’t “work out in the end”. Even more when that “in the end” isn’t in my timing. What I’m finding though is that for my peace of mind- I decide where I “end” things in my head. “I’m letting this go for today, it’s over and I am going to live with it and move on”. This helps me combat my need to dwell on things.
Maybe for everyone else this stuff is innate- but it isn’t for me. See, when I get in these funks it blocks my happiness. I’m finding more and more that I want to do all I can to get out of “bad day funks”. This is what I do and I thought I would share it, mostly because writing it all out helps me keep it in my focus. Lately, I’ve been having a few “suckie days”.
I love the quote: “the happiness of your mind is determined by the quality of your thoughts”. I want the quality of my thoughts not to be dictated by the “suckie stuff”.
How do you get over a bad day or series of them?