This page is about my goals to learn to be happy and to spread that happiness. It has somewhat morphed into my "how to do 'life'" ramblings. I believe though that they all tie in. I think that to be happy I have to accept things that are human and be the best person I can be. This page is how I'm hashing out that journey so bear with me.
I think we all want to speak our minds from time to time. I think we all see things that make us want to speak up. We want the truth to be known. I agree that this is important. I believe that truth should be brought to light- directly and simply. I also believe that it should always be brought in love.
This is where it gets hairy. Some people do ugly things, very wrong thing, things that cause outrage. How do we address that? I was recently outraged by someone. I felt they were being reckless with the life of a baby, I called them out. At first nicely and then when they added further infuriating misjudgment- called them out more viciously. I look back on think, "ohhh that probably wasn't the way to go." I didn't change this women's mind or behavior. I gave her a reason to feel martyred and stick with what I felt was a reckless choice. Nice going Hannah.
I have also been on the receiving end of this kind of "lovely truth". It hurt- so very much. It was peppered with venom, cruelty, and harsh words. The entire message was lost in that anger. Did their truth get through to me? No, I'm angry at them. Angry at their judgment and choice to spew that hate at me. See how this isn't working?
I think that when we are angered by someone's choices or behavior's we don't think to operate in love. We want to show them their wrongness- "Just sit in that wrongness and be wrong!"
I think we all want to speak our minds from time to time. I think we all see things that make us want to speak up. We want the truth to be known. I agree that this is important. I believe that truth should be brought to light- directly and simply. I also believe that it should always be brought in love.
This is where it gets hairy. Some people do ugly things, very wrong thing, things that cause outrage. How do we address that? I was recently outraged by someone. I felt they were being reckless with the life of a baby, I called them out. At first nicely and then when they added further infuriating misjudgment- called them out more viciously. I look back on think, "ohhh that probably wasn't the way to go." I didn't change this women's mind or behavior. I gave her a reason to feel martyred and stick with what I felt was a reckless choice. Nice going Hannah.
I have also been on the receiving end of this kind of "lovely truth". It hurt- so very much. It was peppered with venom, cruelty, and harsh words. The entire message was lost in that anger. Did their truth get through to me? No, I'm angry at them. Angry at their judgment and choice to spew that hate at me. See how this isn't working?
I think that when we are angered by someone's choices or behavior's we don't think to operate in love. We want to show them their wrongness- "Just sit in that wrongness and be wrong!"
If that person who "spoke their truth to me" had done so in a caring manner with concern and love; I may have received their intended message instead of interpreting their judgement and being hurt by the method.
I understand, I do. It's hard to take the time and be caring when someone has upset, angered, or outraged us. It's difficult to get past that. I also understand that there real value in candor, frankness is important. A person though can be direct- without being offensive.
If I have to speak truth to someone- I don't want to offend them to where they can't hear my message. I know that it still may be rejected because truth can be difficult to hear. However, I would rather be rejected for speaking simple truth- then rejected because I ruthlessly delivered it.
We should honor the importance of truth and speak it. I think though that to honor the truth, our personal feelings must be put aside. Otherwise it becomes a personal agenda to be "right" instead of righteousness of delivering a true message.
I am not good at this. I don't sit here and claim to have this down. I think I am at the two extreme's of this. I either can't speak up at all or have become too outraged to deliver it properly. I'm working on it though. I think it's important to try.
Thanks for following me on this journey. Feel free to add your own wisdom. I'd love to hear it!
I understand, I do. It's hard to take the time and be caring when someone has upset, angered, or outraged us. It's difficult to get past that. I also understand that there real value in candor, frankness is important. A person though can be direct- without being offensive.
If I have to speak truth to someone- I don't want to offend them to where they can't hear my message. I know that it still may be rejected because truth can be difficult to hear. However, I would rather be rejected for speaking simple truth- then rejected because I ruthlessly delivered it.
We should honor the importance of truth and speak it. I think though that to honor the truth, our personal feelings must be put aside. Otherwise it becomes a personal agenda to be "right" instead of righteousness of delivering a true message.
I am not good at this. I don't sit here and claim to have this down. I think I am at the two extreme's of this. I either can't speak up at all or have become too outraged to deliver it properly. I'm working on it though. I think it's important to try.
Thanks for following me on this journey. Feel free to add your own wisdom. I'd love to hear it!