Forgive that I'm pregnant so the emotional stuff probably comes easier to me right now.
I talk about all these things so often, because I have too. This is my place, this is where I put those difficult things to deal with it. I realize that sounds odd. This is supposed to be about happiness. I'm finding more and more that happiness isn't what I thought it was. It isn't a constant thing, you can't look at it like an emotion. Those come and go so quickly, at least to me, my heart can be easily bruised. Happiness is something that transforms you on the inside to deal with what isn't happy on the outside. It helps you weather the storm.
It's that inside transformation that is so important. Those moments of grief, anger, pain, hurt, angst, frustration, despair, and loss can bring us so low. However when we go back to that place that reminds us what it is to love, breathe, smile, care, prosper, and delight we can feel in the middle of our turmoil- some peace.
We all have our own obstacles to happiness. Mine is my need for perfection. That egoism, pride, and arrogance that somehow I'll manage it. So when I fall short- I am hard on myself. This is doubly difficult when someone I care about has wounded me. That's something I've dealt with recently. I find when I'm hurt by someone I care about I take on those negatives as a part of my identity. I am met with lies "You aren't good enough." "You are a failure" and "Everyone is judging you by this". Those aren't the reality, it circles back to the egoism that people are even thinking of me. It can be hard to combat this line of thinking.
So, it comes back to what are the positives and what is my identity? For me, I am certainly good enough, surely not a failure, and the judgement of others wouldn't matter regardless. That I am not perfect and that is acceptable- even great- because no one is. This is just one example though.
We all have these obstacles, be they circumstantial or of our own making. When the storm is raging about you, be it big or small, finding your peace, combating the negative, and remembering your identity can really help. For some people this so blatantly obvious they don't need this encouragement. I myself and someone who needs reminders. However you find your peace, it is good to have it. For some it's a spiritual thing, for others it's not. I think it's simply good that we try.
I talk about all these things so often, because I have too. This is my place, this is where I put those difficult things to deal with it. I realize that sounds odd. This is supposed to be about happiness. I'm finding more and more that happiness isn't what I thought it was. It isn't a constant thing, you can't look at it like an emotion. Those come and go so quickly, at least to me, my heart can be easily bruised. Happiness is something that transforms you on the inside to deal with what isn't happy on the outside. It helps you weather the storm.
It's that inside transformation that is so important. Those moments of grief, anger, pain, hurt, angst, frustration, despair, and loss can bring us so low. However when we go back to that place that reminds us what it is to love, breathe, smile, care, prosper, and delight we can feel in the middle of our turmoil- some peace.
We all have our own obstacles to happiness. Mine is my need for perfection. That egoism, pride, and arrogance that somehow I'll manage it. So when I fall short- I am hard on myself. This is doubly difficult when someone I care about has wounded me. That's something I've dealt with recently. I find when I'm hurt by someone I care about I take on those negatives as a part of my identity. I am met with lies "You aren't good enough." "You are a failure" and "Everyone is judging you by this". Those aren't the reality, it circles back to the egoism that people are even thinking of me. It can be hard to combat this line of thinking.
So, it comes back to what are the positives and what is my identity? For me, I am certainly good enough, surely not a failure, and the judgement of others wouldn't matter regardless. That I am not perfect and that is acceptable- even great- because no one is. This is just one example though.
We all have these obstacles, be they circumstantial or of our own making. When the storm is raging about you, be it big or small, finding your peace, combating the negative, and remembering your identity can really help. For some people this so blatantly obvious they don't need this encouragement. I myself and someone who needs reminders. However you find your peace, it is good to have it. For some it's a spiritual thing, for others it's not. I think it's simply good that we try.