I figured eventually I would deal with a comment like this. Though considering that as of yet, no one had bothered to voice this to me, I thought maybe I wouldn't have to deal with it. I was unprepared. It made me really angry, I struggled to address those comments with love. My response was simply: "that if when he's older and still likes purses, shoes, or "girlie" things; that it simply isn't going to matter and he can like whatever he likes at whatever age he likes it." If he's gay, it will have nothing to do with the fact that he's played with purses and dolls and will still not affect how I love and treat my son.
I was raised very conservatively, some of those thoughts and ideas get ingrained in you. However having children, it changes my perspective on a lot of things. I recently watched a great documentary called "What's the T?" it shares the lives of several transgender women. What really stood out to me what how all of them struggled with being accepted by their families. There was wounding and pain there. That broke my heart so deeply.
If I'm being very honest and open, if my son were to tell me "Mom, I feel like I'm in the wrong body- I want to change- I want you to support me." It may make me uncomfortable. I'm human and I have to own that, still in my discomfort I would adjust and support my child. He's my child, it is his right to have me love and accept him- for whatever. I have dreams and aspirations for him, he may choose to do things with his life that don't fit that mold. Regardless of that, he will have his Dad and I in his corner- always- each of our children will.
To me, a parent is supposed to be a safe person. While I will not enable destructive behavior in my kids- they will always have someone who is behind them and foremost it will be my husband and I. I'm really proud to say that Kai feels exactly as I do. We made these babies, they're ours, and they have the right to our love- whomever they decide to become. The world may not accept them or whatever reason, so to me, it's important that acceptance and love come from us.
I want my children to grow up with wisdom, integrity, strength, kindness, as great money mangers, with intelligence, strong spirituality, and critical thinking skills. I'm really not concerned with making them "masculine" or "feminine", ensuring they like the opposite sex, or how not to make them weird. That to me is not how they will become successful, whole, and fabulous adults.
So "You're going to turn your son gay!" So. What.